Addicted.to.Sexting.2015 Subtitles

00:00:17,852 --> 00:00:21,Some new words out there
you probably need to hurry up
and get hip to.

00:00:21,622 --> 00:00:24,- Okay.
- Uh, sexting.

00:00:24,358 --> 00:00:26,Sexting is out there now.
You familiar with that?

00:00:26,494 --> 00:00:29,Explain to those
that may not know...

00:00:29,030 --> 00:00:30,...what sexting is.

00:00:30,498 --> 00:00:32,Sexting is when you text s***y.

00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:34,- You know what I'm saying?
- Like what?

00:00:34,335 --> 00:00:35,Like, "Boy, what you g***t on?"

00:00:35,369 --> 00:00:37,"Ooh, I g***t on something,
you know?"

00:00:38,806 --> 00:00:41,It's your favorite big booty,
Alexis Texas,

00:00:41,976 --> 00:00:43,and I wanna sext
with all of you.

00:00:43,778 --> 00:00:46,The reason I think
people engage in sexting

00:00:46,414 --> 00:00:48,is the reason
that people engage in

00:00:48,182 --> 00:00:50,all sorts of
electronic communication
behind the screen.

00:00:50,584 --> 00:00:52,There's immediacy to it
that's great.

00:00:52,586 --> 00:00:54,It's like window shopping.
All you do is kind of like,

00:00:54,722 --> 00:00:56,"Oh, I like that.
I like that." You know.

00:00:56,524 --> 00:00:58,It's like, "Oh, I'm just gonna
go ahead and try that on."

00:00:58,426 --> 00:01:02,It gets me through the day.
It makes me feel good
about myself.

00:01:02,296 --> 00:01:05,- It's a form of seduction.
- Exactly! That's what I said.

00:01:05,433 --> 00:01:06,"I'm thinking of you.

00:01:06,834 --> 00:01:10,"I want you right now,
but you're not here.

00:01:10,237 --> 00:01:11,"Can't wait till you get home."

00:01:11,572 --> 00:01:13,You know, it's not like,

00:01:13,007 --> 00:01:15,we met in an airplane,
and now we're
in the bathroom f***g.

00:01:15,676 --> 00:01:17,It's all about the build.

00:01:17,645 --> 00:01:21,There's a sense of safety.
There's a glass screen
in front of you,

00:01:21,048 --> 00:01:23,and you don't see the person
at the other end.

00:01:23,284 --> 00:01:25,So what you see
is a reflection of you.

00:01:25,086 --> 00:01:26,It's s***y.
Who doesn't like

00:01:26,754 --> 00:01:30,hearing or seeing something
sexual about somebody
that they're interested in?

00:01:30,491 --> 00:01:32,The idea of lovers communicating

00:01:32,927 --> 00:01:36,secret little messages
is as old as writing.

00:02:19,173 --> 00:02:22,Sexting, first of all, can be
either verbal or visual.

00:02:22,743 --> 00:02:26,I kinda have a different feeling
about both of them.

00:02:26,180 --> 00:02:28,From the verbal side,

00:02:28,015 --> 00:02:31,sometimes I think it's good
for people to be able,
behind a screen,

00:02:31,051 --> 00:02:33,to say things they might not be
able to say to someone's face.

00:02:33,921 --> 00:02:36,Most of the sexting
that's going on

00:02:36,390 --> 00:02:39,tends to be healthy,
in my opinion.

00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:43,I think a lot of people
are doing it to keep
their love lives active,

00:02:43,397 --> 00:02:45,and to let their partners know

00:02:45,666 --> 00:02:48,that they're interested
and aroused by them.

00:02:48,202 --> 00:02:50,So I think,
absolutely, it's healthy.

00:02:50,004 --> 00:02:52,Since I just moved
from Virginia to here,

00:02:52,773 --> 00:02:54,I don't have the connection

00:02:54,041 --> 00:02:56,with the person that I was
dealing with at the time.

00:02:56,410 --> 00:03:00,So we're constantly, always,
sending little things
back and forth

00:03:00,014 --> 00:03:02,to each other every day.

00:03:02,315 --> 00:03:04,I learned about sexting
through my friends
in high school.

00:03:04,618 --> 00:03:08,It was, like, not really
an adrenaline rush, I guess.

00:03:08,189 --> 00:03:11,I mean, maybe a little bit,
but more of like
an approval, too.

00:03:11,825 --> 00:03:14,Like, I send a photo,
and they send back,

00:03:14,595 --> 00:03:16,um, which means
that they're interested.

00:03:16,397 --> 00:03:19,There's an anticipation
aspect to it.

00:03:19,934 --> 00:03:21,The back and forth exchange

00:03:21,835 --> 00:03:24,instead of having everything
so instantaneous.

00:03:24,004 --> 00:03:28,I think it builds arousal
to have that anticipation.

00:03:28,275 --> 00:03:30,The idea that men
are more visual

00:03:30,244 --> 00:03:32,and that women
need to be stimulated
through their mind,

00:03:32,580 --> 00:03:34,is completely a stereotype.

00:03:34,315 --> 00:03:37,Of course, there are women
that prefer to be stimulated
more emotionally,

00:03:37,184 --> 00:03:40,and there are men that
prefer to see a s***y picture.

00:03:40,054 --> 00:03:42,But there's also
the opposite situation as well.

00:03:42,890 --> 00:03:46,It's really a per person
and preference based situation.

00:03:46,293 --> 00:03:50,I'm not really dating
or doing anything,
so it's necessary right now.

00:03:50,631 --> 00:03:52,'Cause I'd be so lonely
without it.

00:03:52,766 --> 00:03:57,I haven't been out on a date,
a real date, since 1984.

00:03:57,371 --> 00:03:59,Do you have any advice

00:03:59,373 --> 00:04:02,that you can offer me
before I put myself out there?

00:04:02,209 --> 00:04:04,Sexting is out there now.
You familiar with that?

00:04:04,845 --> 00:04:05,I've heard of it, yes.

00:04:05,813 --> 00:04:07,- You've heard of it?
- Yes.

00:04:07,147 --> 00:04:10,You're gonna
have to participate.

00:04:10,017 --> 00:04:14,What's interesting is
they're not finding any profile
of the "sexter."

00:04:14,154 --> 00:04:17,It's not particularly
one kind of person.

00:04:17,091 --> 00:04:19,It seems to cut across
many ages.

00:04:19,393 --> 00:04:21,It cuts across
ethnic backgrounds.

00:04:21,328 --> 00:04:23,It cuts across everything.

00:04:23,963 --> 00:04:26,It's really an activity
that I think is going to start
to increase more and more

00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:30,as people feel more
of a connection
through their devices

00:04:30,838 --> 00:04:32,to the rest of their world.

00:04:32,239 --> 00:04:35,There's something really fun
and s***y

00:04:35,142 --> 00:04:37,bringing sexting
into a relationship,

00:04:37,211 --> 00:04:40,and teasing the person
while they're not allowed
to get to you.

00:04:40,247 --> 00:04:42,If they're stuck at work,
or something like that.

00:04:42,616 --> 00:04:46,And then you waiting
in an outfit, you know,
when they come home.

00:04:46,086 --> 00:04:49,It's... That's a really nice way
to spark up a relationship.

00:04:49,823 --> 00:04:53,The most appealing thing
about sexting is maybe, um...

00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:55,It's kind of like going
to Costco and getting a sample.

00:04:55,796 --> 00:04:59,You know, I don't wanna buy
the entire Hungry-Man meal,

00:04:59,233 --> 00:05:03,but if I can get a little taste
of the macaroni,
a little taste of the turkey,

00:05:03,103 --> 00:05:04,then, okay, I think I like this.

00:05:04,805 --> 00:05:07,We both know it's going to
end up here.

00:05:07,341 --> 00:05:09,We're going to end up on bed,
doing it. G***t it.

00:05:09,843 --> 00:05:13,What mood will we be in
when we get there?

00:05:13,047 --> 00:05:16,Is it pursuit and capture?
Are we gonna be
two goofy young kids?

00:05:16,884 --> 00:05:19,Are we two sophisticated
people of the world?

00:05:19,987 --> 00:05:22,** I gonna be
a World War II spy,
you're gonna be an officer?

00:05:22,890 --> 00:05:26,In what way are we gonna go
where we're gonna go?

00:05:26,727 --> 00:05:28,When I open the door,
it's like, "Whoa!

00:05:28,696 --> 00:05:32,"This amazing person who
showed up at my doorstep
is gonna take me away now!"

00:05:32,800 --> 00:05:35,And you get to walk in
and be the guy who
takes her away now

00:05:35,235 --> 00:05:40,because all that boring...
The important yet dull stuff
has been handled.

00:05:40,407 --> 00:05:44,If you're a really shy person
but you wanna learn how to
dirty talk in bed,

00:05:44,478 --> 00:05:46,start doing it over a text.

00:05:46,046 --> 00:05:47,You know, just little things
like that.

00:05:47,948 --> 00:05:50,If you're not so
confident in the bedroom,

00:05:50,718 --> 00:05:53,you wanna be
a little more confident,

00:05:53,420 --> 00:05:56,doing your own little personal
selfie photoshoots is a great
way to do that, you know?

00:05:56,123 --> 00:06:02,See, this is an art,
and this is a relationship that

00:06:02,496 --> 00:06:08,men and women have had
since the beginning
of mobile devices.

00:06:08,369 --> 00:06:10,Okay?

00:06:10,287 --> 00:06:12,I don't quite know
when I learned about sexting.

00:06:12,206 --> 00:06:13,Or when it began.

00:06:13,407 --> 00:06:16,Shoot, when did
cellphones start?

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